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Attracting a man and starting a relationship with
him is only the beginning. Keeping the man is the difficult bit.
Here are three golden rules to help you achieve just that. Of course
there are many other things to consider, but if you’re able to apply
these three basic principles you are on a good start:
- Do not nag!
I
am sure that you have noticed that some women have an infinite
capacity for nagging. Some can also be quite abrasive going as far
as saying things such as: ‘You never do anything right!’ if their
man has forgotten to buy the milk or bread or whatever! Constant
nagging is not going to turn your man into a loving partner. Quite
the opposite, it is going to make him want to step away from you.
- Don’t try to change
him!
Lots of women get into a relationship with a guy and then try to
change him. Either they want to change the way he dresses, or the
amount of sport he does, or the type of hobbies he has, you name it,
the list is never ending. There is always the underlying assumption
that as soon the guy enters into a serious relationship, he will
start doing things differently. Wrong!
How many times have you thought that he would change the way he does
things, that he would change for you? Don’t answer that, I
can guess! The question you have to ask yourself is: do you really
like the guy? If you do, you have to learn to accept him for the way
he is, just as much as he has to accept you for the way you are. Of
course sometimes little compromises are needed both ways for things
to work out, but there is a limit to the amount of change you can
expect and should expect from him and vice versa. If, for instance,
when he met you he used to go to the gym for three hours every
weekend, then it is likely that he will want to continue to do that.
It is possible that at the beginning of the relationship he will
want to spend more time with you, but once things have settled in
the relationship you can expect him to wanting to go back to do
that, because that is part of what he is. This does not mean that
he is less interested in you. It just means that going to the gym,
or playing computer games or whatever is something that he does to
make himself happy, so let him be!
- Give him space…
Lots of women feel that they have to be constantly entertained by
their partner. And if he would rather read a book for a few hours,
or play computer games or whatever, they feel they are being ignored
or worse, they get bored and blame him for that, as if he was their
own private toy whose purpose in life is to entertain them! Well,
how about giving him his space instead? How about finding something
you enjoy doing yourself either on your own or with a friend?
Don’t abandon your hobbies or friends just because you are now in a
relationship. Rejoice your independent self whilst being part of a
couple. Don’t rely on him to have a good time. In that way he will
feel that the pressure is off him and will find you much more
attractive for that.
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